I remember what feeling stuck felt. Looking back into the mirror and not recognising my body.
I was still me, but, at the same time, person looking back at me did not feel like me. Even energy about me was different.
To make things worse, my actual energy seemed to have abandoned me too, went MIA. There was none at any point of the day. How is that even possible?
For someone who never even thought of weight before and has all her life felt really comfortable in her skin, this was a new territory.
And I wasn’t loving it. Far from it.
This was me, after giving birth to my first son (Yes, the one that is leaving home this month to go to Uni). I was 30 years old at a time.
Of course, having my first child was magical, but I also wanted to feel good in myself and about myself. Extra pounds were not helping my health, my back was the first casualty, and it did nothing for my confidence. Like I had put a body suit on, and I was hot and uncomfortable and very aware of it.
My son was 18 months old when I finally had enough and felt ready to take care of the weight that I accumulated in pregnancy and post birth. It wasn’t much, but it was too much for me.
I have always had such great relationship with food and health, thanks to my mother, who, from my early age, taught me to value health. Because there was a point when I was around eight years old when we almost lost her to breast cancer.
Boy, did she fight! Yes, with chemo, but also with blenders, juicers, plants (and in the 1980s) and, above all, with an unshakable will to live and see me grow up… and beyond.
And she did.
So, having found myself at a place where many women are after giving birth – I was overwhelmed and confused and did not know where to start. However, I was a smart cookie 😉 as research took me to a nutrition coach who helped me start on my journey and, in a few months, with her help, encouragement and a solid plan, I was at my goal weight, getting really educated about nutrition and the science about metabolism, feeling amazing and even training to help others with their weight management.
Because it is hard not to get excited when something important happens and you find a solution to something that you struggled with knowing that you can make a difference.
It is a human in us all. Some recommend a movie they loved, I changed a career path 🙂
That was my apple falling from a tree and hitting me on my head. Eureka! I have found my calling!
That was 17 years ago this September. And well over 2000 happy clients in the process (“well over” as I stopped counting few years back – really no need to count any longer as I have put in my 10 000 hours).
So, this month is my 17th Anniversary and I have nothing less than an immense gratitude for everyone who was and/or still is part of my journey and allowing me to be part of theirs.
It is an honour. Truly.
And, boy, isn’t it a journey!
What I wanted to share with you this week is that the best lesson I learnt from my clients who came to me after years of trying on their own is that “I will figure it out myself!” is a path that can cost you:
- Being even more hopeless, lost and confused
- Gaining even more weight, putting further risk on your health
- Having existing beliefs, patterns, habits even more ingrained & much harder to break
- Going in circles and feeling frustrated
- Spending more money on buying clothes in different sizes.
However, the biggest cost is a social isolation when you stay stuck and not fulfill your greater calling, miss out on the opportunities, relationships, etc. due to lack of confidence and joy of life.
Not to mention living in unnecessary pains and poor health.
There is a better way, and you deserve to be the best version of you so that your body can move, feel great, enjoy life!
I was glad I did not fall into the trap thinking I know it best and “I will figure it out!”. Well, I might have figured it out by myself eventually, some do, I have a friend who did it all by himself after suffering a heart attack, but not without trials and errors, and seriously hat off to him, but majority does not.
Because you never know what you don’t know. And staying stuck is costly.
And losing weight is not easy. Because it is so much more than just “eating less”. It is a whole science. If it wasn’t, everyone would be at their ideal weight shortly after they wish for it.
Mainly because of the food addiction that is hard to break without knowledge, help and support. More about it next time. This is the most exciting subject for me.
Going back to DIY – I have truly nothing against the DIY – like to build something you have never built before; you develop a new skill and it can truly be fun. We should do more DIY stuff! It is good for us!
But our biology is complex and DIY-ing your health without skills and sound knowledge can cost us further our health.
That is why crash diets can run havoc to our metabolism and general health.
I sometimes wonder where life would take me if I did not take that leap and got help when I needed it.
Certainly, I would miss out having all my dear clients in my life. So many friendships and connections. Meeting so many people who are so special in my life today and will be for a long time.
And, one thing is true now as it was then – most people struggle to achieve their health and weight loss goals because they do not how to do it safely so they can lose body fat, maintain their lean muscle and metabolism, and achieve energy and shape that makes them feel good about themselves. Not crash diet. Not start, stop, start again, then stop, etc. and off we go in circles, forever on.
If you recognise yourself in this, I encourage you to give yourself a permission to show up for yourself. If you don’t, nobody else will.
Think about reasons why you should start (or continue with your efforts).
It could be so you are able to stay active around your children or grandchildren, or because it is a time you start loving yourself again in the photos (You are beautiful already, but why not also loving who you desire to be?), perhaps because you need a confidence to get back dating or looking for a dream job. All you need is one great reason to start and keep going.
Perhaps you just want to feel good in your skin!
Because now more than ever it is essential to invest in a healthy mind and body.
That includes foods you eat, wellness daily practices, how you feel and talk to yourself and practice self-care – isn’t it a time you look and feel your absolute best?
Because you are worth it.
I would like to invite you to take a leap and book a Discovery Call with me and we can take it from there. It may be just the best thing you did, and I cannot wait to accelerate your success so you can stop going in circles and finally get you losing weight in a healthy, sustainable way.
See you at the other end or, until next time,
Stay safe, healthy and nourished!
Yours in health,
P.S. Choose yourself, always!